So you forgave them. Why does it still hurt so much?
Maybe we have been thinking forgiveness is something it’s not.
(and some cutie pictures of my baby girl with no correlation to the topic other than something cute to look at 🙂 )
We’ve all heard it. Give it time. It’s only a matter of time. Time will heal. WRONG, WRONG, WRONG! Time isn’t going to fix anything. Time will never take the place of forgiveness. Forgiveness will always be a choice we have to make. Forgiving is the choice we make to “stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.” Forgiveness is a choice. Whether we make it today or in 20 years, it will still have to be a choice. Time only lengthens the pain. Time is our biggest enemy. We can choose TODAY to begin healing.
We’ve all heard…
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Headstone still fresh on his grave, my eldest son showed up in the middle of the night with the key to the meaning of life. In this dream where Parker appeared, I was guiding my three surviving children through a city I knew well. It was evening, I was sad and wrung out and felt pressed to get to my car, to get back home.
Suddenly behind me I heard my youngest, Luc, (seven years old at the time), squealing like a newborn. Call it my Mother Bear, call it my short fuse, I swung around to snap the head off of whomever was bugging my boy.
The instant I spun, lip curled and neck tensed to snarl, instead of a “Hey! Cut it out!”, I snagged on the “ow” of “out” and gasped. There, in shorts and his favorite blue t-shirt with his trademark cropped hair was 18-year-old Parker, as…
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