Thanksgiving: More Than An Annual Event

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As I reflected this past week upon the many blessings in my life for which I am deeply thankful for, I noticed many posts eloquently written regarding thanks and the things others are thankful for as well.  I thought about Thanksgiving and what it means.  It seems that annually we see an increase this time of year in people counting their blessings and in wanting to help others in need.  I wondered how long this feeling will last this year.  Will we make it past the 2nd week of January this next year?  Could we even maybe make it to February?  How about Spring?  How long will we remain thankful until we end up back into our old life and start focusing again on what we want instead of what we have?

I wonder what this world would be like if we could all spend an entire year focusing on our blessings instead of our wants.  Focusing on serving and helping those in need instead of focusing inward.  Spending our time in uplifting conversations instead of gossip and problems.  This past week leading up to Thanksgiving, nearly everyone I encountered or interacted with was pleasant, polite and in a cheerful mood.  Imagine what it would be like if we treated everyone like that on a regular basis, not just because of a holiday.

Being thankful and recognizing the blessings we have in our lives daily helps refocus our energy more effectively to be a force for good in our own lives, our families, communities, and nations.  Gratitude and being thankful for what we do have provides peace in our souls and provides a calm reassurance that things will be well in spite of sometimes seemingly difficult and insurmountable circumstances.

A truly thankful person does not boast of their thankfulness, they quietly thank God for the  blessings in life.  They are ones that others enjoy being around, they focus on good things in life and serve others willingly.   They are the ones making a difference in their families and communities, as they focus outward on others.

As we move towards the Christmas holiday and the season of giving, and receiving, may we spend our time being thankful for what we have been given and not on what gifts we want. As we say goodbye to another Thanksgiving holiday until next year, may we take with us the gratitude and thankfulness that we so abundantly shared with others this year and keep it with us daily and not just yearly.

Gratitude, Attitude and the Law of Attraction

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When we realize the power within ourselves to bring great people and blessings into our lives through the law of attraction we begin a journey towards realizing our full potential and bringing abut an incredible life.   Our lives are a magnet with which we attract the very things into our lives that we focus upon.  As we harness control of our thoughts and empower ourselves with the ability to focus on that which we desire we will be drawn like a magnet towards those desires.

Some will question immediately these statements without giving time to ponder the realities that are around them in regards to the fulfillment of this very analysis.  Unfortunately many of  our lives are filled with negative thoughts, people and energy.  We focus upon that which we do not have instead of that which we do.    We focus on problems instead of blessings.  We spend our conversations on negative and depressing subjects instead of goodness and positive stories.   Our news and media focus on the negative stories instead of the life changing and uplifting ones.   Our movies are filled with violence, adultery, lust and deception.  Depression is an epidemic and negativity abounds.  The focus upon those issues attracts more of the same into our lives.  Have you ever noticed that negative individuals tend to spread that negativity around and are often accompanied by others whom share that negativity?

Conversely, positive and uplifting individuals are magnets for like minded persons.  Those people who focus on the good in life, their blessings, helping and lifting others and seeing the good in things are happier and always have the opportunities given to them.  Doors are opened for these people.  Its simple really why this happens, positive people attract others to them while negative ones repel them.  The more people with whom you attract into your life, the greater the possibilities and the more doors that open.  People enjoy associating with positive individuals, we all want to become like them as they reflect the happiness that is within them, happiness many seek to find.

If you want to see miraculous changes in your life, spend the next few months focusing on the positive and the many blessings in your life.  Even the simple blessings will bring joy when we focus on what we have been given instead of what we want.  Gratitude is fundamental to becoming the positive force in not only your life but in others as well.   We will attract more positive people, energy and experiences into our lives as we focus upon the good in all things.  Avoid negativity and negative people.  See the positive in all things and you will find greater success in your life, both personal and professional.  Focus on what you want to achieve, become and attain and you will find it as you eradicate the negative influences and  attract the positive in all things into your life.

We are in control of our lives and success.  No one else.  It all stems from our choices, attitudes and gratitude.  It’s a choice.  Your choice.  What will you choose?   It’s your life, will you harness the power of the law of attraction and begin a miraculous journey towards your destiny?

“Our lives are what our thoughts make it” – Marcus Aurelius

Magical Meals – A Fathers Heartache part 11

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The unlikely moments of school lunch are often the anchor to my children that keep us connected.  As many who have read this series knows that except in the most extreme circumstances, my ex does not allow my children to call me.  I am relegated to my one 4 hour visit per week and every other weekend, with exception to the scattered holidays we get together.  My time with my children becomes limited and often times painful for us as we are apart.  School lunch allows me the moments with my children to make up some of our lost time.  I travel 25 minutes from my office to their school as often as possible to spend 10 minutes with each of them sitting at the lunch table with them and all of their friends.  These moments are what I refer to as the magical lunch moments in our life.  Simple and short opportunities for my children and I to laugh and talk about school and what is happening.  Our time together seems to go quickly, yet these brief moments in time help secure our bond together. I live for the smiles I get from their shining faces when they see me standing in the doorway to the cafeteria waiting for them. They never know for certain what days I can break away from the office to have this time with them so it is always a surprise.

Over these long lonely years of missing my children, I have needed to search for the magical moments when I can make a difference for them in their lives, when I can show them how much I love and adore them.  Our school lunches together has been one of these magical moments I search for.  I learn so much about them as I sit and laugh with their friends at the table as we eat, they open up and tell me everything that is happening, they feel secure and safe, just like home.  I discover the games they play on the playground with their friends and how they treat others as well as how the kids at school treat my children.  I learn about the homework, the books they are reading and any issues with school and their sports.   I treasure these moments with them and the opportunity to connect.

Our mealtimes have become some of the most amazing opportunities to connect with one another as we sit around tables talking with one another.  My wife and I have found that our children thrive at the dinner table together. We talk honestly and openly about the things that are happening in our lives and it is an opportunity for our children, where they feel safe and secure in our home, to relax and truly open up to us.  The other day while sitting at dinner together, my dear wife asked Bridger and Londyn what they liked most about coming to our home, with no hesitation whatsoever Bridger responds, “this is family.”  WOW!  The emotions I felt as I tightened my grip on my wife’s hand under the table were overwhelming.  Finally!  I received the confirmation that what we have been doing has been the right thing and we were making the impact we have been striving so hard for all these years!

These opportunities to connect with my children have provided anchors to my soul to help me through some of the dark times when they are away.  This connection is what gets us through times like we enter now, as over the next month we will only have two 4 hours visits, 8 hours in 30 days of time together as a result of the holiday and weekend schedule and the conflict created with the holiday happening on my regularly scheduled weekend.  It is times like this when our school lunches become ever more magical, precious and all important.   The times that will anchor our souls as one.