No Role Model Here – LiAngelo’s blame game

The recent arrest of LiAngelo Ball and other UCLA players in China for shoplifting has brought to the attention the insane polarization of this country and how even our common courtesy towards one another is dictated and driven by our political climate.

As most of you are aware, President Trump intervened on behalf of these college hoodlums that were arrested for shoplifting in a country whose laws are far more strict than our own.  These kids should have been rotting in a jail cell awaiting trial for their flippant disregard and disrespect for the laws of a country they were invited to visit as ambassadors for NCAA Basketball and UCLA, yet our President Donald Trump interceded on behalf of these athletes to bring them home.

LiAngelo Ball has subsequently withdrawn from UCLA to pursue his basketball dream in Lithuania due to the fact that UCLA indefinitely suspended him for his egregious actions while representing the university.  LiAngelo then further states that the ONLY reason that he thanked President Trump for intervening and saving his sorry butt was because UCLA made him do it.  He also claimed that the only reason he shoplifted was because the other two were doing it.  This kid has no regard for any rules and has no common decency in life.  He cannot take any responsibility for any of his own actions and continues to disrespect the very people who saved him from a very difficult self caused imprisonment in a foreign jail!  He should rightfully still be sitting there!

I do not care if you agree or disagree with President Trump politically,  he saved this kids future.


If we cannot be gracious for something this significant due to political differences then we are doomed as a society.

What in the world has LaVar and Tina Ball taught their children?  The Ball family does not believe that rules apply to them, that they are better than everyone else and therefore do not need to follow them.

Social order is built on just that… ORDER.  Rules help create order.

My fear is this…  MY CHILDREN.

I have worked hard to teach my children gratitude, integrity, honor, respect, ethics, morals and hard work.  None of which the Ball boys possess.  Yet these athletes by the sheer grace of God have been given the opportunity to play ball and have millions of kids look up to them as role models.   (LaMelo Ball has over 2 million Instagram followers)

These are NOT role models!  These are hoodlums!  These kids represent the opposite of everything I have worked so hard as a parent to teach my children.  Sadly I hear from my son, “but dad, he is good ball player”  I DON’T CARE if they are the best players on the planet (which they are most definitely not!) , they are horrific examples for my children.

Sadly, too many parents will pay homage to them by purchasing the merchandise their father peddles from one conflict to the other as his boys and him are so good at causing.

As a parent, I choose to fight for the soul of my children and encourage them to support decent role models who deserve to have kids look up to them off the field before I let them talk about their play on the field.



Kindness Begets Confidence



Previously I have written about how we treat others is truly a reflection on how we feel about ourselves titled ‘Self Reflection in Others”

This post was about how we feel about ourselves is manifest in the way we respond and interact to those around us.  When we accept this self realization we can become kinder and more gentle, yet more powerful and confident.

The other side of this spectrum also holds true.  When we are treated poorly by others, we often react to the stimuli, whether this reaction is silent or outspoken for the world to hear, we all react.

The difficult part of this comes within ourselves.  Do we choose to see and listen to the abuse from others, allowing them to ruin our day?  Do we shy away from someone due to potential conflict?  Do we deny ourselves experiences based upon someone else’s behavior?

Many times we choose to allow others power over us in the way that they treat us.   We teach others how we want to be treated based upon what we will accept from them.  When we hold our ground, kindly, firmly,  yet peacefully we have more power in that moment than the other person could ever have.

Power comes from confidence and knowing who we are.   Part of this knowing is understanding this dynamic of how we treat others is a reflection upon how we feel about ourselves.

So true is how others treat us is how they feel about themselves.  Those that are angry or mean spirited individuals in reality have terrible self esteem and do not like themselves.  Whether it be the waitress that was rude, the tire tech that called you a jerk, the guy that flipped you off on the highway.  These individuals who go through life bulldozing over others are so disgusted within themselves that they react to their own internal struggles and guilt by abusing those they come in contact with.

As we lift and serve one another we can find that we actually become stronger, more confident individuals as this manifests beauty within ourselves.  We see ourselves in the people we serve with heartfelt kindness and genuine intent.  We can improve our own self loathing through this service.

The way we treat others, including strangers, not only reflects how we feel about ourselves but also creates within growth in those feelings.   If we treat others in a negative fashion, we will certainly see ourselves worse than we did before.  If we are kind, we too see that within ourselves.  We gain confidence, strength and humility along the way.

Wal Mart and Big Retailers Killed Customer Service in America

When I was a kid growing up, I was taught respect and courtesy.  These traits were taught from a young age.  This not only taught me how to treat others in my life, including strangers, but also how I should be treated as an individual.

As corporate giants such as Wal Mart have taken over the world over last 40 plus years, we have traded in respect and courtesy in favor of the inexpensive and cheap merchandise these retailers peddle.  Our insatiate desire to have more and more has increased these retailers have jumped in and stolen from our society respect and courtesy once commonplace amongst us.

As these employers need more and more employees to staff their growing business they are relinquished to hiring anyone that breaths.  This new crop of employees have grown up in a world where they can get anything they want.  They are typically young egocentric kids that have no respect for anyone and this carries over to their work at these retailers.   The retailers are unable to fire them because they need so many employees to run the store, management accepts their behavior.

We as consumers have traded respect and courtesy in favor of the low cost, cheap merchandise they peddle and we accept this to feed our own vanity with the cool cheap stuff we buy.

This problem has proliferated and become so commonplace that it now exists in nearly every experience in every location with every person we meet.  Respect and courtesy of others has been lost.  We have accepted rude and belligerent treatment from so many employees in every store, restaurant and shopping interaction for so long, that it has become the “normal.”  Employees get away with it because the few complaints that management will receive is brushed off.  They accept it because we accept it. There are no consequences for this behavior.

The meaning behind customer service is dead!

In restaurants, we tip, not for the service but because it is expected of us.  We have let the retailers and restaurants tell us how they will treat us and we have blindly accepted their bidding.  In doing so, we have killed respect and courtesy in every part of our lives.

We don’t say thank you when a door is held open for us.  We don’t wave kindly thanking the car that let us into the congested street.   We don’t return a kind smile.  We don’t say please and thank you.

In sacrificing respect and courtesy in favor of the cheap, we have cheapened our world and the diminished our own richness in life.

The Double Standard of Domestic Violence


There is a scourge upon society that infiltrates every community, race, social class and religion.  Domestic Violence is such a heinous crime that it destroys many lives and affects nearly 1 in 3 individuals.  This is an epidemic that has destroyed generations of families, yet one that has continually been swept under the rug, hidden away and not discussed.  A dirty little secret no one wanted to ever discuss.  It affects children, men and women.  All can be victims for it is not a scourge that only affects women, or children.  Many men are also victims.

The subject of domestic violence has received a tremendous amount of publicity as of late.  The high profile accusations against several athletes has brought this to a fever pitch.  The advertisers and the public are demanding reform and action take place.  Many are calling for the resignation of Roger Goodell, commissioner of the NFL.  Many players have been suspended, or banned from the sport.  People are calling for quick and swift action against these players, the teams and the league.

Keep in mind, these players have only been charged, not found guilty.  Yes!  I do understand the video evidence in the Ray Rice deal.  That single case, with the evidence available should be dealt with immediately.  Many of the others are accusations, not convictions.   Society wants them punished simply on an accusation.

Then today,  along comes a little story on FOX Sports regarding another professional athlete, an Olympian no less.  One who represents the United States on the world stage in soccer.  Another Domestic Violence incident.  However, the difference with this case and why it is not getting the national microscopic attention of the other cases is, this is a woman who is charged with the violence.  Ironically there is also a history of violence in her relationships, this is not her first time involved in a domestic violence disturbance, yet the sponsors, the Olympic Committee, coaches and organization are supporting her and standing behind her while she sorts out this unfortunate situation.

Where is the public outcry?  Where is the media?  Where are the sponsors threatening to cancel their agreements with the USOC?  Where are the demands for the resignations of the head of the USOC?

Domestic violence of any sort should be abhorred and steps taken to stop and prevent it from happening should be swift and precise.  There MUST be equality in the decisions made surrounding the alleged perpetrators regardless of gender.

Anything less than complete refusal to accept domestic violence in any sort from any individual will only exacerbate the problem.  The gross inequal attention and treatment based upon gender, age, or any other microscope is abhorrently wrong and will cause significant damage to the cause of eradicating this scourge.

Hope Solo of the US Women Soccer team should be treated the same as any NFL player currently under investigation.

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A Utah Mother Blames the Airline for Hurricane Odile Stranding her Daughter!!! Are You Kidding Me???????

Mexico Hurricane Odil

A Utah mother whose daughter was stranded in Cabo as a result of hurricane Odile had the audacity to blame the airline that took her there?

KSL News radio  reported yesterday of a mother and her frustration at not hearing from her daughter who was in Cabo for a work related getaway.  This mother went on the find fault with the airline for taking her daughter there in the first place, she said that the airlines knew about the pending storm and should never have taken the passengers in the first place.


This is a perfect example of the insane opinions that everyone else is to blame for your misfortunes?  How about taking responsibility for your own choices and decisions?  It has become all to common and easy to blame others for our own stupid choices.


How is the the airlines fault?

Maybe it should be the engineers fault for designing the airplane that took her there?  Maybe the Airports fault who let the airplane leave in the first place?  Maybe it’s the birds fault who inspired the Wright brothers? Oh I know, it’s the refineries fault for making the fuel that the plane used to fly there??

What an absolutely absurd report by KSL to even include such nonsense in their so called reporting.

This woman should be checked for mental illness!

Why isn’t it her daughters fault for failing to check on the weather prior to her own travel?  The whole world knew this hurricane was approaching and where it would hit land.  Why isn’t it this mothers fault for letting her daughter go in the first place? (even though she is grown woman)

It’s easier to shift blame than to accept responsibility for our own actions,  Wake up!  We make our own choices and it is time to STOP blaming other people when we make stupid decisions!

Take ownership!

Outrage Over the Konduga and Chibok Kidnappings.


Where is the international outrage?  Where is the support?  Why the silence from the media?  Twenty five school aged girls were kidnapped in Konduga in March, silence.  No rescue efforts.  No outrage.   3 weeks later on April 15th another 230 girls kidnapped from school to be sold as sex slaves and wives. The original 25 kidnappings weren’t even mentioned until after the next kidnapping in April.  Still silence until MAY???  and no international rescue efforts?

The missing Malaysian flight 370 disappears with 227 passengers and 12 crew members in March.  An international search began within 24 hours.  At the peak of the search for this missing plane 26 countries were assisting with aircraft and ships from 11 of them!  Australia, China, Japan, Malaysia, New Zealand, South Korea, The United Kingdom and the United States of America all joined in, spending millions of dollars searching for the missing aircraft.  The search is estimated to cost nearly a QUARTER OF A BILLION dollars!

Where the hell is the logic?  We can spend MILLIONS with thousands of individuals looking for a missing plane within 24 hours and yet 22 days go by for these children and no money spent and FINALLY the US sends a dozen people to help in the search efforts 22 days after they go missing??

These children, little girls are undoubtedly being raped and tortured and the world remains silent?  May God have mercy on our souls.




The Protest of Differing Beliefs


What motivates anyone to protest the religious beliefs or meetings of any religion?  This issue seems to come up semi-annually in Salt Lake City during the conferences for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.  Each session of these conferences are met with protestors and picketers making various claims against the church and its members desiring to worship in peace.  It seems as though the primary focus of those who protest during these conferences are there attempting to disrupt the meetings and create altercations with the attendees.  These protestors thrive on conflict and do all in their power to create it.

I have never been one to protest the personal or religious beliefs of any individual and quite frankly find enlightenment from friends who have differing viewpoints.  I have many friends from nearly all religious and non religious backgrounds.  I have never seen the need to protest or speak against their personal beliefs.  I respect the differences in our beliefs and opinions,  and most of them respect mine.  This creates a great opportunity to learn, understand and accept one another. 

So what truly motivates an individual to desire creating conflict with others as they worship and attend religious services. 

Are they afraid of the teachings?  If so, why?  Most people are afraid of that which they have no understanding of.  If one is fearful of something, wouldn’t trying to understand that difference of belief aid in reducing that fear? Or could it be a fear that they know they are incorrect in their own personal beliefs and are afraid to recognize that within themselves?

Is it merely a lack of knowledge and misunderstanding?  If so, why would anyone be foolish enough to protest anything they do not understand or have knowledge of?  Wouldn’t this make them foolish?

Is it driven by hatred?   I believe so.  I believe that for anyone to protest the personal religious beliefs of another, (this includes those who claim to have no religious beliefs for that is their belief) there must be a deep hatred within them.  Contention is a form of expression for hatred and animosity, and anyone who claims otherwise would find their argument difficult at best to prove,  when love is best expressed through peace and understanding.

We all carry within us differing beliefs. No two people believe exactly the same thing as everyone has their own opinion and interpretation even within the same religions.  To protest another’s beliefs for being different is the truest form of hypocrisy.