The smiles and the laughter, the giggles and the cheer
Have been a hallmark of your life for each and every year
The joy and love you you’ve given and shared along the way
Have left the others wondering how you do it everyday
A life so full of gratitude and love beyond compare
Have changed the lives of many with each person that you share
Yet there are few who truly understand or comprehend the choice
To hide your pain and anguish behind your tender voice
For each new day you choose to live, regardless of your lot
The heavy load that you endure, and the battles you have fought
Your smile was forced now natural, a gift for all to see
Your daily choice in life has determined what you’ll be
Someone who spreads the laughter, the cheer and joy around
Who overcomes each challenge with the love of life you’ve found
So others see the person in whom you’ve chosen now to be
And from your heavy burdens, this choice has set you free
How do you define yourself when asked who you are or what you do? What is the answer that you most often give? Does that answer change or vary depending upon the context or company we are in? Do you present a single answer or give a list of talents, hobbies or skills?
I enjoyed a great visit this weekend with a family friend. In a discussion with one of their children I learned of a recent identity crisis this young person had encountered this year. This individual had been an athlete their entire life, concentrating on one particular sport. They had received tremendous accolades, attention and success in this area. This success led them to be a significant part of a major University and the team in this sport. Dreams and goals were achieved in reaching this pinnacle of success. They had achieved what they had intended to throughout this young lifetime journey.
The end of last season, this individual was injured and no longer able to compete. With humility and tremendous gratitude for the opportunity they moved forward into their senior year in school. Keep in mind this individual is extremely goal oriented, driven and finds success in life. The identity crisis occurred when the new school year started. Their entire life had been this sport, each time they were asked to tell something about them, they replied with the same answer, I am a _(athlete)___. They would proudly tell others what position they had on the team and who they were.
This part of the team became who this young athlete was. This is how they identified themselves and who they viewed themselves to be. When asked this year who they were, they were confused and unable to respond.
Now this young person is far more than just an athlete. They are an amazing example to so many in so many other areas. They are a very intelligent, motivated, strong and determined young person. They were simply in the process of discovering truly WHO they were, not what they were.
Many times we find ourselves struggling with WHO we are and get caught up in the what we are or were. This confusion paralyzes many. Some get stuck in the glory days of High School and end up a fifty something still talking about that one pass that would have won state. Others get hung up on the what we are and become puffed up with pride and ego, unable to see the true world around them.
It is in the Who we are that changes the world. When we focus on the what we are we change nothing.
Why are we here on this earth to live?
Is it to gain great riches? Or learn to give?
To lift anothers burdens, that they might be light?
Or to mock and make fun of anothers plight?
Each day we must ask, have I done any good?
Have I reached out to help all that I could?
Was I there for someone who needed a listening ear?
Was I there for my friends year after year?
The warmth of a smile, the caring of a friend.
Am I that someone whom people can depend?
The Lord taught us all how to truly give.
For this is the purpose of our lives to live.
When we realize the power within ourselves to bring great people and blessings into our lives through the law of attraction we begin a journey towards realizing our full potential and bringing abut an incredible life. Our lives are a magnet with which we attract the very things into our lives that we focus upon. As we harness control of our thoughts and empower ourselves with the ability to focus on that which we desire we will be drawn like a magnet towards those desires.
Some will question immediately these statements without giving time to ponder the realities that are around them in regards to the fulfillment of this very analysis. Unfortunately many of our lives are filled with negative thoughts, people and energy. We focus upon that which we do not have instead of that which we do. We focus on problems instead of blessings. We spend our conversations on negative and depressing subjects instead of goodness and positive stories. Our news and media focus on the negative stories instead of the life changing and uplifting ones. Our movies are filled with violence, adultery, lust and deception. Depression is an epidemic and negativity abounds. The focus upon those issues attracts more of the same into our lives. Have you ever noticed that negative individuals tend to spread that negativity around and are often accompanied by others whom share that negativity?
Conversely, positive and uplifting individuals are magnets for like minded persons. Those people who focus on the good in life, their blessings, helping and lifting others and seeing the good in things are happier and always have the opportunities given to them. Doors are opened for these people. Its simple really why this happens, positive people attract others to them while negative ones repel them. The more people with whom you attract into your life, the greater the possibilities and the more doors that open. People enjoy associating with positive individuals, we all want to become like them as they reflect the happiness that is within them, happiness many seek to find.
If you want to see miraculous changes in your life, spend the next few months focusing on the positive and the many blessings in your life. Even the simple blessings will bring joy when we focus on what we have been given instead of what we want. Gratitude is fundamental to becoming the positive force in not only your life but in others as well. We will attract more positive people, energy and experiences into our lives as we focus upon the good in all things. Avoid negativity and negative people. See the positive in all things and you will find greater success in your life, both personal and professional. Focus on what you want to achieve, become and attain and you will find it as you eradicate the negative influences and attract the positive in all things into your life.
We are in control of our lives and success. No one else. It all stems from our choices, attitudes and gratitude. It’s a choice. Your choice. What will you choose? It’s your life, will you harness the power of the law of attraction and begin a miraculous journey towards your destiny?
“Our lives are what our thoughts make it” – Marcus Aurelius
Young children are raised with expectations placed upon them from others. Parents, grandparents, family, friends, teachers and neighbors all have expectations for those around them. Don’t hit. Don’t talk back. Be respectful. Finish your homework. Be on time… This list can be large and generally well intentioned. Most expectations are meant to mold children into productive, healthy, happy adults who can contribute to our society in positive ways.
What about the larger expectations often put on a child? To serve in the military? To attend the parents Alma Mater? To follow in the parents footsteps and take over the family business? To marry in the church? Again, this list can be incredibly long.
Are these expectations reasonable? Productive? Healthy?
What happens to a child raised with these expectations who fails to meet or live up to those standards placed by another?
Many times when something goes awry in the life plan for a child be it personal choice, medical, mental or any other reason that would cause a child not to achieve the lofty expectations they have been raised with, the sense of failure can be extremely heavy and often a burden many carry for life. The overwhelming personal grief in “letting” everyone down penetrates the soul like a cancer with feelings of self worth, self doubt and being a failure growing.
Often the sense of failure leads to poor choices in other areas of life. For some, these become life sentences. For others, it becomes an intensely personal battle to overcome the sense of failure many live with.
There are many in this world living with this sense of failure created by lofty expectations of others Many you know most you do not. They live with fake smiles while fighting extreme doubts of self and worth. They continue throughout their life with the belief that they should have done more, been more or finished something, whether in their personal control or not.
We must create a culture where we encourage others to be successful in life while limiting the lofty expectations we place on them. We must free our children from this burden of unfulfilled expectations that many of us live with in life and replace it with the belief that we can become anything we choose and encourage them to chase their own dreams and not ours.