My life has been somewhat rather challenging, many obstacles that I never dreamt that I would ever encounter in life as a young man. I have quietly rebuilt my life no less than 4 times from the ground up. Choices of others have continually and directly impacted my life. While I am able to see clearly that these choices have created difficulties for me at times throughout my life and without the choices made by others I would never have faced the overwhelming challenges I have.
Hindsight creates a unique perspective. Without these challenges that I have endured I would not be the man I am today. I know this to be true. I also know that one key characteristic in my life that has defined who I have become and prevented utter destruction of my soul is that I have never allowed anyone and their choices the create a stumbling block of blame for where I am in life. Each time that I have stepped up after being beaten down I have risen stronger, higher and with more determination than ever to be the one controlling my life.
Never have I let anyone dictate what I would and would not accomplish. I have experienced decades of of attacks from others whom by their choices they meant to destroy my life and future. From an ex wife to employees committing fraud, Each time that I rose above the obstacles created I have experienced a renewed effort at times by others to tear me back down in an attempt to keep me there. There have been many who know of many of these struggles who have often commented that it would have destroyed them. I beg to differ, for what doesn’t destroy always makes us stronger. It is ALWAYS our choice in what we let destroy us. No one else can ever make that choice for us.
As each of us will certainly encounter severe struggles, disappointments, heartaches and roadblocks in our lives, some created by our own choices, others created from the choices of others, we alone make the choice of where we allow them to take us.
Many times the urge to blame others for our own misfortunes exist, sometimes rightfully and justly so. It is when we give into this urge and blame other people, government, religion, circumstances or other, for our current circumstances in life that we surrender our will to their desire for us. We abandon our own self each time we pass blame.
It is only through faith, determination and belief in oneself that someone is able to rebuild a life, a career and family when others choices are involved. For my choices to let certain people into my life in the first place added to my own heartache. Taking responsibility for my own choices, my own life and staying determined to not be kept down. Anyone can rise above any obstacle placed before them, it starts by faith and believing on yourself!
Believing in yourself is far more important than anyone else’s belief in you.
As a child, my parents instilled into us to believe in ourselves and in our own abilities. These lessons have strengthened me and enabled me to accomplish many things that at times others thought impossible.
My love and passion for photography began when I was a very young man of 13. As I continued with this hobby, I ended up taking some amazing pictures and became desirous to copyright and sell them. At the age of seventeen I set out to publish my first photograph. Many people told me along the way, how great my pictures were but that I would never be able to sell them. How would a seventeen year old with no connections be able to pull it all together? I had been raised to believe that I could accomplish anything I wanted, the naysayers only fueled my desire to accomplish this goal that I had set my mind to. I was able to obtain a copyright, mass produce the picture, obtain a distributor and sell the picture, before my 18th birthday. Imagine the excitement when I was able to walk into the BYU Bookstore and see my photography on the shelf for the public. It was an exhilarating experience. One that I will never forget.
When I decided to write my first novel, I was again met with skepticism by others. I can’t even begin to tell you how many people told me that everyone wants to write a book, not very many ever finish them. Determined I set out to finish this novel. When I completed it, I was excited to have finished such a large goal, the first one took me a couple years to complete and edit. When I completed this effort, I received some very sound advice from a friend of mine who was a very well known and seasoned author, to take pride in the fact that I had completed something that many people start, but only few complete. The only persons opinion of the novel that mattered was my own, that there would be those who would find fault with it and those who would like it. The only thing that mattered was my belief in myself. It was my first attempt at writing something on that large of a scale, my friend reminded me that there would be criticism, which of course there was. It didn’t matter to me at the time, I had completed what I had set out to do and it was the exact story that I had wanted to tell. I self published this novel and my next 3 novels, specifically for my family and friends.
There have been many more experiences in my life from personal issues to promotions at work, to starting my own company, when the need to believe in myself regardless of whether anyone else believed in me made the difference. Life is full of those individuals, sometimes the closest ones in your life, who will always find discouragement in your endeavors and will create roadblocks to your goals. It is your belief in yourself that will create the strength to rise above the noise in our lives. There will always be those who intentionally or unintentionally hold us back from being the success we are destined to be, through their unbelief, which Is generally their own self doubt projected upon others.
Rise above the noise, believe in yourself and remove others self doubts in themselves from holding you back, you deserve to fly without the shackles that others would place upon us.