My wife and I love spending time outdoors, especially hiking. The opportunity to spend time together, outside, while climbing along a mountain trail provides great moments to grow closer to each other and gain a deeper love and appreciation for this earth and the wondrous beauty around us. We have hiked many trails throughout the western states and Hawaii. Each one is unique and offers something the others do not. I would find it difficult to identify my favorite trail or hike.
As we hike along the different paths, they all share one thing in common, the farther along we get the more majestic and beautiful the scenery becomes. The more challenging the hike, the more beautiful they become. The reward is always worth the effort.
Many times people will stand at the base of the trail deciding whether or not to begin the journey. The assumption is made based upon how difficult the journey looks or at times the obvious lack of beauty at the beginning. We judge the outcome of the journey by where it starts instead of where it leads. Beauty is always found in the journey and where it leads, not by standing still at the bottom.
Our lives too resemble these hikes. If we judge others based upon the outward appearance instead of investing the energy necessary to take the journey required to know them we will never know the beauty that each person brings. If we choose to stand still and not invest the energy to take the journey necessary to find the beauty in any aspect of life, be it love, family relationships, school, work, religion, friendships, or anything, we will never discover the beauty that lies deep along the path.
While beauty is all around us, the ability to see it in its fullest grandeur requires effort on our part. Those who choose the take and complete the journey always find the greatest satisfaction and fulfillment.
Life is an amazing adventure when you are able to journey through this existence with someone you love. The little things don’t ever matter and the big things all become little things. My wife and I do not always see eye to eye on things, in fact we are on opposite sides of the spectrum at times. We have discovered that most of the areas where we disagree really don’t matter anyway as most often they are political or social in nature and truly have no impact on our lives. I believe this is the way we have been able to build such a magnificent, loving and beautiful relationship over the years.
We have both experienced painful pasts where trust was violated and the journey back to being able to love and trust has been a difficult one for both of us. The honesty with which we communicate with each other, while not always easy has given each of us the ability to trust one another and in turn has allowed our love to grow.
The journey through life can be a challenge and sometimes painful experience. Understanding that we have each carried with us those heavy burdens also allows us to lift them from each other as we walk through this life hand in hand. While most of our goals and desires in life are the same, we share with one another the enjoyment of discovering the differences each of us bring. It is through our differences that we actually grow the closest, as we discover new things in life from each other, it also drives us to discover new things we can share.
Our life is perfect. We are different but equal. We share everything while enjoying things the other doesn’t. We explore this world together, parent together and dream together. There isn’t a single morning that passes when I don’t get to listen to my wife’s sometimes crazy dreams. We laugh together and we cry together.
The journey to find one another has been hard, filled with heartache and sorrow along the way. The darkest of nights have led us each to the brightest of days in our lives. The journey has been worth every step, and for this I am deeply grateful that we have been brought together.
My world is enriched, blessed and filled with love and wonder with you at my side, thank you my beloved wife for being the amazing woman you are and making a me a better man.
Finding joy in our journey here on earth at times can seem daunting as life’s challenges and obstacles can create sometimes seemingly overwhelming sadness, sorrow and depression. Overcoming this cycle many of us find ourselves in at one point or another in this life is key to finding that lasting joy we all seek. It is upon learning, understanding, believing and then acting upon the belief, that we are in control of our own happiness and joy, that we can finally take control of our own lives. We can discover the true joy that exists and that we alone control. Perspective, gratitude and focus are some of the most powerful tools we have at our own personal disposal to change our own lives and find Joy in the journey. We alone control these tools, ones that can be used to change or destroy our lives. The choice is ours and ours alone, no one else can control that choice but ourselves.
Perspective and how we view ourselves, others around us, the circumstances we find ourselves in and the world around is critical to the level of happiness and joy we can attain in this life. By shifting our perspective towards a more positive outlook and looking at things from a broader view of the world we can eliminate much of our self doubt we encounter along the way. We will discover as we look through different lenses that the most difficult of life’s events can be overcome and that these moments can make us stronger. We will gain wisdom, understanding and clarity as we widen our view with which we see things. It’s all a matter of perspective.
Gratitude provides us the opportunity in our lives to see the blessings we are given each day. As we identify and write down the things we are grateful for our hearts and minds will be opened to seeing the positive in our lives. It may be as simple as a shirt on our backs, a dry place to sleep, to our children and families. Sincere gratitude for what we have in our lives and the blessings we are given, opens our hearts to recognizing that happiness does not come from no problems in our lives, it comes from our abilities to handle the problems we are given. Epicurus said it best “Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” Be grateful in all things.
Focus is a fundamental key to finding joy in our lives, The law of attraction is immensely powerful, we attract into our lives that which we focus upon. Finding a clear perspective in everything allows us to master this law of attraction and bring these things into our lives we all desire, for “man is that he might have joy.” The things that we focus upon in life are the things we attract in our life. If we spend our time and effort focusing upon the negative things that happen to us, our circumstances, or what we deem “unfair” we will attract more the those negative situations into our lives. An individual who is sick and spends their time focused on the sickness, always seems to get more sick. Individuals who focus on others, and service to others, are always surrounded by great friends while those that focus inward and their loneliness, find themselves more lonely. A positive focus in life will bring about positive effects in our lives. We master that where we spend our time and energy (focus).
Our lives are meant to be filled with happiness, joy and love. We alone control our success or failure in these areas. We are the captain of our own ship, the choices we make with our perspectives, gratitude and focus will determine the level of success in life we find.
“At the end of the day, let there be no excuses, no explanations, no regrets.” Steve Maraboli