To Have, or Have Not, A Personal Choice.

Obstacles

Obstacles are an important part of our lives.  Obstacles provide us the ability to grow and develop.  A life without obstacle would be one of no improvement.  An obstacle teaches us what we are capable of achieving in life.While many of us dread the obstacle and the challenges inherently included therein, they are often the partner of change and with change comes opportunity.

Many of us all too often fall victim to the obstacle.  We give up.  We quit.  We stop progressing.  We fear and believe that the obstacles in our lives are too difficult to overcome.  Many times people abandon their families, their dreams, or their futures due to the challenge or difficulty that an obstacle provides.

Many others see an obstacle for what it is, an opportunity for growth.  Those who embrace this approach to life’s obstacles, challenges and changes are also the ones who find lasting joy and happiness.  These are they who take control of their lives and take accountability for their own actions.  They don’t play the blame game and don’t allow others to dictate their worth in life.  The victim mentality is non existent within these individuals.

Life’s obstacles can be daunting.  The changes within ourselves often required to overcome them can be scary.   The path isn’t always the easiest and the climb can be challenging.  If it weren’t so, then what growth could truly occur within ourselves if we didn’t have to stretch to rise above.

Those who fail to see the opportunity in each obstacle and change, fail to live the life they were capable of having, they relinquish their own futures for an “as good as it gets” life.

With either path, we make a choice.  A choice to have, or a choice to have not, it will always be a personal choice. The decision and control are always ours and no one else’s.

Which life will you choose?

A Hearts Last Desire

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It was a cold and stormy wintery night as Bill tiredly climbed into his car to head for home.  Work had been exhausting as Bill navigated the slippery snow covered roads leading to his home, where his devoted wife and 2 boys anxiously waited for his return. Bill’s mind raced as his thoughts were on work and the many tasks that were before him. Bill had always dreamed of being an executive and was driven by the many deadlines and the extreme overtime he gave to his employer.  Bill’s satisfaction in life came from his work as he took tremendous pride in his career.

Meanwhile across town, Myron had quickly left his work anxiously longing to get home to his sweetheart and adoring children waiting for him.  Unable to contain his excitement for the weekend fast approaching, Myron mentally planned out the weekend and the time with his family that…

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God’s Laws Can Never be Changed by Man

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Many friends I know feel as though the commandments are antiquated, outdated and not relevant in today’s world.  This belief seems to be prevalent in our culture,   Each of the ten commandments have become glamorized through our movies and invade our homes daily through the internet, television and music.  We are falsely led to believe that the only way to have fun and enjoy life is to break the commandments and live a life without rules or restrictions.

This is the greatest lie ever told to mankind.

Happiness, joy, and peace can never be found violating these laws of God.  The commandments are not given to us to restrict our lifestyle, they are given to provide direction and guidance that will bring about that happiness, joy and peace we long for.  Living a life in harmony with Gods law is the only way to find that deep peace that our…

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Priorities

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When our priorities in life colliding like opposing forces the results can be disastrous at the worst, disheartening at the least.  How do we manage them?  overcome them?  resolve them?  Most often these colliding priorities are mutually dependent one upon the other.

We each have our familial priorities, our professional priorities and our personal priorities.  These all intersect with each other in one way or another, a parent cannot keep food on the table and a roof over the head of their children without the means to do so, therefore our work and careers become ever more important as the priorities in our lives most often involve those we love the most,

When demands and pressures in our work become great, this places tremendous stress on our family and personal priorities, conversely when pressures in our home lives becomes great, this places stress on our work.  Finding balance between them is critical and key to our overall happiness and success.

Clearly defining what our TOP priority in life is helps create a map for us as we navigate the other areas of our lives and the demand that others can place upon us.  As we are true to our TOP priority, the decisions in the others becomes clear and more simple.  When we straddle the top spot with multiple demands, every aspect of our lives suffer.  With a clearly defined list of priorities, in proper order we gain confidence in our ability to control our own happiness and destiny.

We must also find the outlet that help us refocus and balance out the demands in our lives.  For me, that is my top priority, my family.

Anger Danger

ANGER

Anger disrupts our lives in many unpredictable ways.  When we let anger enter our heart, it can complicate the most important relationships we have.  Our closest relationships are also the ones that feel the greatest impacts of our ups and downs in life and they ride along the emotional rollercoaster all of us can ride.

This past December, the company I was doing some work for was sold.  It is a national AMC located in Utah and I was acting as their National Sales manager.  All the corporate relationships the company maintained rested upon my shoulders to keep happy and I was the face of the company for these clients.

The sale of the company brought new ownership into play.  After one week of working with this group, and learning more about them individually, my wife and I decided that I could not tie my reputation to theirs and as the face of the company, I represented the new owners.  My integrity was worth more than a paycheck.

After a week of deliberation, I respectfully gave my two weeks notice and prepared for the new executive a current working list for prospects, as well as the key contacts within each organization we dealt with.  Upon learning of my notice, one of the minority owners, whom I had dealt with in the past, came in and proceeded to inform me that they were not going to honor the two weeks notice, nor pay me the $22,000 in unpaid commissions I had earned.  This arrogant man proceeded to berate me and take his frustrations out on me over the course of the next 30 minutes, and then I was escorted from the office.

I was angry and upset.  I had respectfully provided them a notice, prepared for them an exit strategy for me and agreed to help with a smooth transition for my departure.  I knew it would be unfair to both myself and this company for me to continue to work for them when I knew in my heart that I could no longer sell this company and the new ownership to my clients.  I knew it would be best for me to just leave peacefully and move on.

The company then proceeded to harass me  with multiple phone calls and emails from the owners, their new executive and their attorney attempting to intimidate me into signing a non disclosure and non solicitation agreement, after they had berated me and refused me my earned commissions.  I refused to sign this document, and then they said they would pay me my salary for the two weeks if I signed, however there would be no payment of the earned commissions.

Over the next couple of weeks, I became angry and wanted justice.  It frustrated me and the angrier I became, the more the anger pulled me in.

The part that was most difficult during this process for me to see, was what that anger I had let into my life was doing to my relationships.  it was hurting those I loved the most, not these fools that I was angry at, but those I loved more than life itself.  My wife and I have an amazing relationship and for the first time ever, we found ourselves arguing one with another.  Our children were impacted as their happy, carefree father was at odds with my wife and not in the mood to be anyone.

Thank goodness for the redeeming power of prayer, as I sought direction in what I should do, the answer was simple yet extremely difficult to do.  Let go!

I needed to let go, not only of the anger but of the situation as well.  I needed to look forward and not behind.

As I did so, the harmony was restored in my marriage, with my children and in my home and life.

Allowing the anger into my life with a situation I had little control over cost me more pain in the hurt brought upon those I love the most.  What was in my control was my own behavior, once corrected harmony returned.

Anger brings unforeseen dangers into our lives.  Anger cannot exist with love, one always suffers for the other.