Best Friend


You are a bright spot in this world of mine
I feel I’ve been robbed for there is never enough time.
So little time shared between your mother and I.
When you’re not here I just want to cry.
My life exists to be your dad.
And when I can’t hold you it makes me so sad.
The joy in our lives was ripped from our hearts.
The lies she brought in was just the start.
So know that I love you, and will always care.
I know that this world  is so hard to bear.
So be my little buddy, and my best friend.
My love for you will never end.



Vile words

Roll off the tongue

Placing blame

For things that are done

The hateful words

You frequently say

Hurt our children

Every day

The hatred spewed

And directed at me

Haunt our children

And what they can be

For within their hearts

So pure and true

is part of me

And part of you

Each word spoken

and slip of the tongue

Damages our children

And cannot be undone

So hate me if you must

But speak only kind

For our children’s tender hearts

Are tied up in a bind

Each word destroys

A part of their soul

And hurts them more

Thank you can ever know

Each word spoken

in jest about me

Tells our children

What they can be

A Utah Mother Blames the Airline for Hurricane Odile Stranding her Daughter!!! Are You Kidding Me???????

Mexico Hurricane Odil

A Utah mother whose daughter was stranded in Cabo as a result of hurricane Odile had the audacity to blame the airline that took her there?

KSL News radio  reported yesterday of a mother and her frustration at not hearing from her daughter who was in Cabo for a work related getaway.  This mother went on the find fault with the airline for taking her daughter there in the first place, she said that the airlines knew about the pending storm and should never have taken the passengers in the first place.


This is a perfect example of the insane opinions that everyone else is to blame for your misfortunes?  How about taking responsibility for your own choices and decisions?  It has become all to common and easy to blame others for our own stupid choices.


How is the the airlines fault?

Maybe it should be the engineers fault for designing the airplane that took her there?  Maybe the Airports fault who let the airplane leave in the first place?  Maybe it’s the birds fault who inspired the Wright brothers? Oh I know, it’s the refineries fault for making the fuel that the plane used to fly there??

What an absolutely absurd report by KSL to even include such nonsense in their so called reporting.

This woman should be checked for mental illness!

Why isn’t it her daughters fault for failing to check on the weather prior to her own travel?  The whole world knew this hurricane was approaching and where it would hit land.  Why isn’t it this mothers fault for letting her daughter go in the first place? (even though she is grown woman)

It’s easier to shift blame than to accept responsibility for our own actions,  Wake up!  We make our own choices and it is time to STOP blaming other people when we make stupid decisions!

Take ownership!

Heartache and Sorrow – A Perfect Pair

Broken heart

Heartache and sorrow

a perfect pair

ones always close by

when the other ones there

strength they gain

when together they come

much of a life

can come undone

combating these two

a challenge for all

for their goal in life

is to make you fall

so surround yourself

with those who love

turn to him

who resides above

for love and joy

will conquer the pair

it lifts your heart

from the depths of despair

don’t be afraid to love

its the only cure

To own your heart

and happiness procure


The Creature, Chapter Four; By Bridger (My 12 year old son)


As they quickly made their way towards the exit they were suddenly stopped.

Freedom was only moments away and their way was blocked.

It wasn’t a door or rubble blocking their escape, it was giant creature, the Queen.

“hello Richard” she hissed,

“nice to see you again”

“I wish I could say the same” Richard replied

“Ha Ha, you always did have a sense of humor” the Queen responed.

“After all that’s what helped you get away last time,   I’m afraid it won’t be that easy this time”

With a flick of her wrist, she released 4 more creatures, blood thirsty hounds.

Richard wrapped his arms around his children as they cowered in the corner, unsure of their next move.

The three of them watched eyes wide, as the hounds slowly inched closer and closer…..


An Old Photo and a Lesson Learned

A few years back I stumbled across an old photo that I had forgotten was ever taken.   The photo by itself was rather insignificant, the impact of finding the photo and the lesson I learned while pondering about that time in my life has changed much in how I view life and the change that comes over time.

The photo, a rather simple picture of myself at 17 alone in our pool.  I was somewhat surprised to see myself at 17, a somewhat good looking young man, tanned, shirtless and rather ripped.  I never saw myself that way, even in school as a 17 year old boy.  When I saw that picture, my first impression was WOW! did I ever look that good, followed by an immediate second thought of wishing I could look like that again.

As I thought over the next few days about wishing I could get back to that same physical condition I was in at 17 the thought came to me that the reality of that might be difficult at best.  Life had changed and as I had aged.  I had also taken on tremendously more responsibilities in life than I had at 17.  When the picture was taken, I was able to swim for an hour and a half every morning, I would run between 5-7 miles each afternoon and then my friends and I would play basketball for a couple hours each evening.

Life was simple, I had time available for those pursuits.

The lesson learned, one that has changed much of how I view changes in life…


See, if I wanted the same physique I had at 17, then I would have to be willing to put in the kind of time necessary to get it back.  I would have to be as active as I was then.

This lesson though goes much deeper than exercise and physique.  This lesson is about life.

One example of this is in relationships, yet this permeates every aspect of our lives.

Many times I hear people, couples complaining that he/she isn’t the way they were when we were dating.  They’ve changed and aren’t the same person.  My question to them is this… Are you the same person?  Do you act the same with them now as you did then?

Do you kiss as often?  Hold hands as often?  Laugh together as often?  Date as often?  This list could go on forever.

Many times when people meet and fall in love, they fall in love because they are interested in the other person and want to spend as much time with them as possible.  They look at each others strengths and what makes them such a good person.  They see only the good in them.  They make time for one another and date often.

Somehow, life takes over and our time gets filled up, much like between now and when I was 17.  My time being active was replaced.  Our time with our spouses and loved ones get replaced by other things.  Work, kids, school, etc…  We begin finding faults in one another instead of the strengths we once saw.

We find ourselves longing for what we once shared and trying to find our way back to that.

Here is where the lesson becomes the most powerful.


If you want to go back to what you had, then you must go back to how you were.  Be the person you once were before you allowed distractions to take you away from what you really wanted and found in the first place.

I would never have lost my six pack had I never stopped what I was doing to get and keep it.  This same holds true for life, our relationships and our families.  We MUST continue doing the things that made us happy in the first place.  When we found love.  If we want to rediscover that then we must go back to what we did the first time around.

Just as getting my six pack back won’t be easy after years of neglect, it can be done, the same holds true for relationships, the course won’t always be simple and easy, however we are certain that happiness exists when we are doing the simple things that brought it to us in the first place.

This lesson also holds true in the opposite.  If we are not happy then how can we ever be by doing the same things that make us unhappy?

Our lives are determined by our actions.  It is through those actions that we determine our happiness and satisfaction in life.



Neglect and love

can never be friends

for where one does start

the other must end

In love you must choose

between these two

for only to one

can you ever be true

so choose wisely this day

which one to befriend

for one brings happiness

the other one ends

The aftershock of September 11, 2001…and Losing our way

In Memory of 9/11 today. I wrote this last year.



As I reflect upon the events 12 years ago that will forever be etched upon the history books as September 11, 2002 (Patriot Day), the day America suffered the worst attack in history upon its people and homeland. My mind cannot help but race to the changes that occurred in the weeks, months, and now years that have followed.

Immediately following the attacks I was aroused with the patriotism and the return to our God that was so prevalent throughout this nation. Patriotism was at a fever pitch. It seemed as if everyone turned to God in our time of grief, sorrow and despair. We turned our hearts and our thoughts to the core beliefs that this country was founded upon which brought a renewed resurgence of national pride. We banded together as brothers and sisters of this great land and showed the world that we would not succumb to…

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The Change in the Miserable Old Man – by Bridger, my 12 year old son


There was once a greedy old man who lived a miserable life. He owned a store with ridiculous prices yet everyone in town shopped there as he was too intimidating not to buy from. 
One day a creative young man came up with a plan to end this miserable mans attitude in life.  He carefully planned his idea then zipped over to the man’s store  
It was quite amusing to watch as the young man updated the store’s look to a happy vibrant color. The young man was also patient, kind and understanding with the old man.
When the young man finished with his plan, the old man’s real side was shown and the miserable old man wasn’t so miserable in the end.  The young man had effectively changed the old man’s world through his kind acts of love and service.